Archive for the ‘Everything Changes’ Category
Ever Disobeyed Your Doctor’s Orders?
When it comes to following prescription drug dosing and directions, I’m like a teacher’s pet. I’m terrified of potential drug side effects – almost to a neurotic and paranoid level. And I do exactly what my doctor says. But many patients don’t or can’t. Especially with the economy...
August 16th, 2010 | Blogs-contributors, Everything Changes | Read More
Has Cancer Stolen Your Private Space?
Some people feel their body doesn’t belong to them anymore during illness; it belongs to the doctors. With cancer, I didn’t just surrender my body, I also relinquished the privacy of my home.
During surgery and treatments, my mom traveled to San Francisco and moved into my studio apartment. ...
November 6th, 2009 | Blogs-contributors, Everything Changes | Read More
What’s Your Cancer and Religion Connection?
God talk is embedded in a lot of cancer conversations: “It is all a part of God’s plan.” “The universe is trying to tell me something.” “God doesn’t give you something you cannot handle.” (Major puke on that one.) “I’ll say a prayer for you.” These exchanges are so common...
October 28th, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More
Addicted to Your Illness?
I have spent the last six years reading, researching, and writing about cancer. I am so fulfilled by this work, but sometimes I wonder if it is always the healthiest choice of how to spend my time.
My cancer has never been in remission and it could be with me for a long while yet. Cancer is an uninvited...
October 26th, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More
Do You Know About Your Doc’s Private Life?
I injured my knee while napping on Wednesday. (Who gets injured napping?) Still super painful on Thursday, Shannon pushed me into my doctor’s office in a wheelchair. The cause of the pain is still a mystery. We joked with my doc that it’s H1N1 in my knee, or a very new and original...
October 22nd, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More
How Smart Is Your Favorite Organization?
Bigger isn’t always better. More isn’t always better. Louder, snazzier, cuter, more prolific isn’t always better. But I think smarter IS always better.
I was recently asked how I decide what organizations I donate to. A few years back the head of the American Cancer Society blew me away. ...
October 20th, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More
Fear of Pain Killers or Pot?
I’m no angel. In high school I smoked a lot of pot and hash. A straight-A student, who rarely smoked on school days, I felt completely justified getting bake on the weekends. I wasn’t looking for a mellow buzz; I loved getting completely messed up. I had a blast being stoned with my best...
October 19th, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More
How Do You Handle Fear?
Fear is something I have experienced much of in the last nine years since my diagnosis, and my feeling is that it is not something that I “surmount” or “overcome”, but something that I go “through”. It is not always pleasant, and coming out on the other side is...
October 15th, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More
How Do You Decide Where to Donate?
I was recently asked how I decide what organizations to make donations to. Here’s my answer:
I try to remove my emotions from the equation and not focus on my cancer story. Instead I look for a bird’s eye view on the situation. I act like a business person making good investment decisions. ...
October 15th, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More
Has Poetry Helped?
A great part of being an author and blogger is all of the emails I get from readers who I never would have met otherwise. Rich Devlin is one of those people.
Rich sent me a riveting poem a few weeks ago called The Price of Survivorship, which you can read below. He recently lost his wife of 38 years...
October 12th, 2009 | Everything Changes | Read More

