You’ve got cancer AND kids, now what?

After Cancer - Now What? — By on March 3, 2010 at 6:38 pm

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div class=”separator” style=”clear: both; text-align: center;”a href=”http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_3WfwzsWpUQ4/S412_456xgI/AAAAAAAAAyw/NIRY1qFOido/s1600-h/Holding+Hands.jpg” imageanchor=”1″ style=”clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;”img border=”0″ height=”134″ src=”http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_3WfwzsWpUQ4/S412_456xgI/AAAAAAAAAyw/NIRY1qFOido/s200/Holding+Hands.jpg” width=”200″ //a/divSo where does chemo fit into the schedule of t-ball, science fairs and book reports? Most people would think that it doesn’t but more and more cancer patients are out in the community, living life. While your cancer diagnosis may not be something you want to yell down the street, I hope you’re not shoved in a closet and whispering about it either. br /
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In a strange way I was lucky to be diagnosed when my children were still young. There was nothing to explain to my daughter who was 17 months old at diagnosis. My son was 5 when I was diagnosed and we were able to keep the conversation very simple.br /
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“Mommy is sick and the medicine she needs to take is going to make mommy lose her hair and be tired.” He’s always been a bit of an anxious kid so we watched him for that and actually got therapy when we thought it was needed. br /
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So what should you be watching out for in your children? There are some behaviors to look out for, which may be indicators that your child is struggling. br /
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Now remember, these behaviors in and of themselves are not unusual during the development of children. Teenagers are prone to being moody whether you have cancer or not.nbsp; Some responses such as tearfulness or sleep problems are common during a crisis but they should not be ignored. If your child begins to show an increase in defiance, anger, irritability or risk taking behaviors pay attention. If your child becomes more “clingy” than they used to be or begin acting more like a “baby” also be aware.br /
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There are professionals available top help in any number of ways from guidance counselors at school to church social workers. Online there are resources from a href=”http://www.kidscope.org/”KidScope/a and a href=”http://www.kidskonnected.org/about/default.html”KidsKonnected/a and others who can help guide you to finding the help you and your family may need to get through this rough spot. The a href=”http://www.cancer.org/”American Cancer Society/a should be able to help you find support for your children as well. br /
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More and more of us are surviving cancer so we’ve got to get our families the help they need to get them through what I hope is a temporary situation for all of us.div class=”blogger-post-footer”img width=’1′ height=’1′ src=’https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4713736175601908568-6184378260328793254?l=www.aftercancernowwhat.com’ alt=” //div
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