Gone too Soon

Blogs-contributors, Dan Waeger — By on May 29, 2009 at 6:03 pm

Yesterday, we lost another person to lung cancer. Kevin Brumett was just 29 years old. He and Dan had connected through the Lung Cancer Alliance. Their stories were eerily similar. Kevin was a wonderful advocate, and like Dan, shared his story in the hopes of combating the stigma associated with lung cancer. He was even a patient advocate at the pharma company that made his drug. My heart goes out to his wife Steph. The two were just married this past weekend. Although we never met them in person, I feel that the four of us were close. And unfotunately, our lives shared similar paths.

These loses really impact me. Many of the people that I met with lung cancer during Dan’s journey have since passed on. Wonderful, beautiful, articulate people. People who faced death every day and lived full lives nonetheless. What we have to offer those with lung cancer in terms of treatment options & research is not enough. It’s woefully inadequate. We need to do more.

I hope you will send a little prayer or kind thoughs for Kevin’s wife Steph. Having been in her shoes just 10 week ago, my heart breaks for her. Like me, she has lost a lot of innocence at a young age. Bad things happen to good people. It’s not fair, and it’s not because God wouldn’t give us what we can’t handle. It’s just life, which in the same moment, is hauntingly beautiful and tragic.

I am borrowing a poem that Rachel posted on her blog awhile back… actually, it was on the day Dan passed away. A friend framed it for me and left it on my doorstep. I read it every day, and it’s a fitting tribute for Dan & Kevin, two brothers-in-arms….

You can shed tears that he has gone,
Or you can smile because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he’ll come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all he’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him,
Or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he’s gone,
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
Be empty and turn your back,
Or you can do what he’d want;
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

-Author Unknown

I think I am going to wear some green and yellow today as a nod to Kevin & Dan.

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